Author: Carolyn

I am a Christian, a sinner saved by God's amazing grace. Much like my life, my blog is a work in progress. The main objective I have for this blog is to "proclaim the praises" of the One who called me out of darkness and into His marvelous light! (1 Peter 2:9)
First Date

First Date

Carolyn

30 years ago today, my husband and I had our first date. He drove us in his family car—a yellow Duster. He had been driving for all of 6 weeks. We had dinner at Danver’s and went to see The Karate Kid, Part 2.

Bryan’s family had moved to Memphis two years prior when his dad became pastor at our church. I remember when his dad was candidating for that position, when I heard his last name, in all my young wisdom, I thought, “I hope he doesn’t come. That name is too hard to say!”

1185859_10151652732237862_1255471060_nThis picture is the first time I ever remember meeting them after their family’s arrival from Texas (note the cool Cowboys hat!). This was driving home from the football state championship game at Vanderbilt stadium where our school lost in double overtime. Bryan and his brother became good friends with my best friend’s brother, so we all spent a lot of time together at my friend’s house, in church youth group activities, and at school.

TFullSizeRender-3his next picture was taken two years later, not on our first date, but about 2 months later at some church or school event. Though we’d have a couple of short breakups during our years of dating (which I think is typical of long relationships), I don’t think we ever envisioned ourselves not together.

We would marry almost 7 years later. Life has been an adventure through Tennessee, Texas, Virginia, and Illinois, but God gave me the best one to travel through life with, and I give Him praise. God has been good. I take a few moments to remember and thank Him for this journey.

Mentoring and Discipleship

Mentoring and Discipleship

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My son recently returned from a missions trip with some students from our church. The pastor and his wife who led the camp where they worked for the week are former students of my husband. We had the opportunity to be there for the last day of the missions trip, and it was great to reconnect with Mark and Ruthi and see their ministry, as well as hear about the week of opportunity and how God had used it in many lives.

One thing that struck me was how my husband had invested in his students who were now investing in our son who was also likewise beginning to invest in this couple’s young children, who promptly told me the nickname they had given my son! I saw a beautiful chain of relationship and discipleship, the worth of investing in the next generation and then seeing that continue. It is an investment of time and friendship, centered around the gospel that gives us this Christian fellowship.


Likewise, my daughter’s second grade teacher was someone we enjoyed immensely right from the start. She left the school after a few years when her first child was born, but we kept in touch through church.

When my daughter reached high school age, this former teacher led a summer Bible study for her and a few other friends. This was a wonderful investment in their lives as they began a new stage of life. Now she lives just down the street from us, and my daughter babysits for her. Gospel relationships. One generation to the next.

Another of my husband’s former students began a mentoring ministry. A few years ago, my daughter and I were able to attend the conference for teen girls, where the moms (mentors) also received training. Last year, I also attended her mentoring conference for adults with my mom and a friend from church.

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I love the vision for this ministry: “Legacy Living Ministries is committed to training women of all ages how to engage in an active love relationship with God, apply His Word and disciple like Jesus. They have seen and believe that through discipleship and mentoring relationships people begin to grow exponentially in their active love relationship with God and their understanding of how to live out His Word in their everyday life.”

When our friend comes to our home once or twice a year, she is so intentional with talking to both of my children and getting underneath the surface to hear what’s going on in their lives and encourage them in their faith. I love how God has gifted her and is using her.

How thankful I am for the teachers, pastors, friends, and family who have taken time to invest in our children. So many come to mind. It makes me ask myself how I am investing in others’ lives. There are so many ways to do that, including teaching children’s Sunday school at church or having a Bible study or praying for these students regularly.

We can always invest while being invested in, learning from the generation ahead of us who have sought the Lord and have insights we have yet to see, and helping teach the next generation who are maybe just beginning in their own walks of faith. We can be involved in peer relationships as well. It’s always enriching to leave lunch with a friend having had gospel conversations that spur us on in our faith and encourage us to love God more.

What ways have you seen this happen in your life?

Blogging Update

Blogging Update

Carolyn

Since I gave myself a very public 30-day blogging challenge, I suppose an update is in order. I only blogged 8 times in the first 12 days, and have since fallen off. Here’s what I have learned so far:

  • Though I have many ideas about which to write, each one takes time to develop. It would be imprudent for me to rush those and throw them on the page without deeper reflection.
  • I desire for my thoughts to be anchored in Scripture, in biblical truth, and that also takes time to study longer than I can give to get a piece posted in a day. I don’t want to sloppily throw something up or base it all on experience.
  • I tire of hearing myself! I don’t want to talk just to talk.

However, there have been many benefits:

  • If I’m writing, I’m thinking about that and developing those thoughts. When I have spare time to think, this is where my thoughts go. It takes me away from other thoughts that would not be as beneficial. Has your mind ever been stuck in a rut of replaying something, of thinking over and over about something that isn’t healthy? Those kinds of thoughts can become toxic. But when we truly can turn our minds in a Philippians 4:8 way—to the things that are true, honorable, just, pure, lovely, commendable, excellent, praiseworthy—then we can be free of anxiety, full of peace, and enjoying thoughts focused on God. It gives us a whole new perspective. This is what blogging helps me do.
  • Before I post, I run it past my husband or my mom for quick thoughts or feedback, and I love having them part of the process and hearing what they have to say. And as my husband spends his mornings working on his latest novel, when he comes downstairs, I like to pretend I understand the life of a writer! That we are on the same “page” with that (pun intended)! Ha! But he has been most kind to engage with me on this, and that’s been a fun part of it. Only one piece does he keep sending back to me—yesterday with red font type interspersed!—which has led to dead space on the blog for several days, but perhaps I’ll get it right or move on soon.
  • It’s a way to pursue a little bit of a hobby I can enjoy. This challenge pushed me out to actually do something more consistently with my blog instead of continuing to push it aside. Whether it’s worthy of even sharing or whether it will develop or just end at the end of 30 days, I don’t know. But I’ve enjoyed it.

So I have not met the 30-day blogging challenge. But I’ve learned a lot and hope to continue at a reasonable pace and learn and grow in these things. My desire hasn’t been to be a writer as much as a recorder of God’s work and things I learn from His Word, to praise Him. That’s what I want to communicate, particularly to my kids so these stones of remembrance are collected and not forgotten. Thanks to those who have offered encouragement on this little journey.

Christian Radio

Christian Radio

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Trevin Wax recently wrote a piece explaining why “Christian Music Radio is more theological than you think.” I enjoyed reading the article because I love Christian radio and listen to K-LOVE in the car or while I’m doing things at home. Trevin concludes, “So, as a supplement to daily Bible study, prayer, and weekly worship with God’s people under the Word, I recommend Christian radio as a source of encouragement for the Christian.”

Christian radio has long been an encouragement to me, with just the right song playing at just the right moment.

The first time I remember this happening was when I was caught in a Texas thunderstorm. As the windows of my car were breaking and blowing out in the storm, with hail and glass and rain covering me, the song playing lightly on the radio in the background calmed me as I heard it, the same song (by Twila Paris) that had been on the radio when I started my trip earlier in the day: “God is in control. We believe that his children will not be forsaken. God is in control. We will choose to remember and never be shaken. There is no power above or beside Him, we know, God is in control… He has never let you down. Why start to worry now? He is still the Lord of all we see, and He is still the loving Father, watching over you and me.”

Another time, years ago, I had prayed about having a neighborhood Bible study. The Lord answered prayer in so many incredible ways, but one morning, I was headed to the kitchen to start my day, and I thought, I wish I had a song for this Bible study. But there’s really no song about your neighbors! I turned on the radio to fix breakfast, and heard, “Wake the neighbors! Get the word out…” Who knew, yes, a song about neighbors—an older Steven Curtis Chapman song (“Live Out Loud“) at just the right moment.

Another time, I had a doctor’s appointment with a specialist I have to see each year. I knew I would be getting back test results, and as I prayed that morning, I decided no matter what the results, I wanted to praise the Lord—good or bad. As I stood up to go about my day, I thought, No, that’s not enough. I need to know what I’m going to say. I had been reading in Habakkuk 3 that morning, and verse 2 stood out: “LORD, I have heard of your fame; I stand in awe of your deeds, LORD. Repeat them in our day, in our time make them known; in wrath remember mercy.” I decided I would say, “I stand in awe of You,” no matter the results.

When my doctor came in, he was excited and said, “This is awesome! What have you been doing?” And he went through each result and was so pleased! I felt like a little kid with the teacher praising her for a good test! He left the room, and I remembered, “I stand in awe of You, Lord. Thank you!”

When I picked up my kids from my friend’s house, I was recounting with enthusiasm the story to them, telling them about saying “I stand in awe of You” about the results! As I was saying this, I heard on the background the radio playing “And I stand in awe of You, Jesus, yes, I stand in awe of You….” from “Let My Words Be Few.”

Many, many more stories I could share (there’s actually a category for “songs” under my blog that records some others), but those three stand out. I know some people don’t like the style of contemporary Christian music—and of course, there are other kinds of Christian radio—but it’s been a huge blessing in my life! It helps me pay attention to God at work around me in my day. It might be something to encourage you, too, as Trevin says, as a supplement to Bible study, prayer, and being involved in the local church.

His Strength in Our Weakness

His Strength in Our Weakness

Carolyn

When my children were younger, for a short season, I would send them a verse for the day and write about it. This is one that I came across a week or two ago that I needed myself to be reminded of. I’m not sure who first said, “preach the gospel to yourself,” but it is a valuable instruction to remind ourselves again and again of truth. This particular truth I think of as my “lifesong.”

Have you ever felt like you can’t do it? You can’t live the Christian life well? It’s just too hard?

Or why not just keep going like things are—isn’t that good enough? Do we really need to try to do better? or be better? And is that even possible in a world stained by sin? Can we possibly improve ourselves, much less make a positive difference in this world?

If you’ve ever struggled with these things, those questions, then I think you are in a really good place. Does that sound strange? What?! Feeling as though I can’t do it is a good place to be? Wouldn’t it be better to feel like I am competent and able and strong and doing really well?

I introduce you today to my life verses, 2 Corinthians 12:9-10.

Paul has been talking about a thorn in his flesh that was given to him, and he had pleaded with the Lord three times to take it away from him.

“And He [the Lord] said to me [Paul], ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore most gladly I will rather boast in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. Therefor I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in needs, in persecutions, in distresses, for Christ’s sake. For when I am weak, then I am strong.” (NKJV)

Think about that. God’s strength is made perfect in weakness. If we could do it all, if we had all it takes, why would we need Him? But when we wrestle in our Christian walk of faith, when we see this is too much, it’s too hard, it’s when we begin to realize, yes, it’s too hard! But not for Christ! He is strong, He is greater than it all, and He is able by the power of His Holy Spirit to work in you for his good pleasure, your great joy and good, and His glory.

See your inability, your weakness, not as something to discourage you, but to lead you to Christ. He does still call us to act and obey, to “work out our salvation with fear and trembling” (Phil. 2:12), to “put off” sin and “put on” godliness (Col. 3), but He will help us. Keep calling out to Him for help.

He forgives us when we repent (1 John 1:9). He hears us when we cry. He answers us when we call. Let Him give you His strength to live each day. Sometimes it may be up and down and hard, but keep looking to Him, keep seeking Him, keep believing He is able and will lead you. Let His strength help you in your weakness.

We can’t live this life in our own strength. (We can try, we may feel we can for a bit, but it will always fail!)  When we understand and see the truth and beauty of that reality, then we are able to accept something which is so much better: we live this life in His strength, by the power of the Holy Spirit, Christ in us, the hope of glory (Col. 1:27).

PRAYER: Dear Lord, we come to You this day acknowledging our sinfulness and the things that so easily beset us and discourage us. Help us to give up ourselves and turn to You who is able to keep us from falling and is able to give us the strength that we need to obey and follow You with great joy. We are human, we surely fail, but we have You, our God who is greater than all our sin, who rejoices when we repent, who waits patiently for us, and who will supply us with all we need for life and godliness. We love and praise You this day. In Jesus’ name, Amen.